Pratical Advice

Practical Advice section

This section endeavours to provide as much practical support as possible online. We have also reproduced leaflets that have been published by the Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society (SANDS) with their kind permission.

Our Support Group Meetings

One of the most important aspects of what we do is the running of our support group meetings. They give parents and families a safe environment where they can talk about the child they have lost without fear of being judged or simply not being understood.

When a baby is lost, you can feel very isolated and feel as though no-one understands your experience or your feelings.

This is why it is so important that there is somewhere you can go to get help, sympathy, support and advice from people who have walked in your shoes. Our meetings are very informal, and there is no pressure to talk or “tell your story”, you can simply listen if that is what you need.

Being around others who have worked through this devastating time can really help with the healing process.

Our Support for Fathers

“When Henry was stillborn, I remember very clearly spending hours on the phone telling people that needed to be informed, checking on everyone else, and ‘being the rock’. For weeks and months afterwards I fielded the questions “how’s Briony doing?” and “Is there anything she needs?” over and over and over again.

I think it’s perfectly natural for fathers in this situation to want to focus all their energies on their partner. To be strong for those around them. To want to take control of the situation and handle all the practical matters so that your partner doesn’t have to worry about them.

What I’ve learnt over the last couple of years is that the grief is yours too, and you don’t always have to put up the front. Taking time for your own emotions and grief is really important too.”

Chris Binnie, Henry’s dad

Fathers are often overlooked as attention is often concentrated on the mother. Our Angels is here to support you guys too. Please take time for yourself, and please don’t feel like you can’t reach out to us too.


Download SANDS MAINLY FOR FATHERS LEAFLET

Our support for grandparents

Losing a grandchild is a double tragedy for grandparents, losing their grandchild and their concern for their child in their grief. We asked an Our Angels grandfather to write a few words:

“It is difficult to describe the emotions which grandparents undergo when learning of the death of a grandchild. The months of joyful anticipation of the forthcoming birth are snatched away in an instant leaving only a hollow sadness.

Having nurtured one’s child for a significant part of one’s life the sad news brings an instant and infinite compassion for the child, now grown to adulthood, and his or her partner at their loss - the scope and intensity of which is impossible to understand.

In common with all tragic events it is difficult to know how to handle the news and how to express one’s sympathy for the grieving parents. Words can never adequately describe the love and support one wants to provide.

The death of a child is always especially sad as it is not in the normal order of life. It simply is not how things are meant to be. A welter of emotions focus on just how helpless one is to provide the support one instinctively knows the parents - your own child - need.”


Download SANDS GRANDPARENTS LEAFLET

Our support for brothers and sisters

Handling the loss of a baby whilst trying to explain it to young siblings can be especially challenging. Our Angels can offer you friendship and support as well as shared experiences to give you ways to explain the situation to other children sensitively. We also have booklets kindly donated by Harrogate’s branch of the Co-Operative Funeralcare which we can give you.


Download SANDS SUPPORTING CHILDREN LEAFLET

Our support for wider family and friends

Watching a loved family member or friend suffer through the loss of their child can be incredibly difficult, especially if it is not a situation you have any experience of yourself. Very often bereaved parents tell how they grow apart from friends after the loss of their child. A lot of the time this is down to friends simply not knowing what to say and being afraid of causing additional hurt, choosing instead to avoid the subject and the person altogether.

Friends or family members suffering through the loss of their child need your support and they need to know you are there.

Our Angels can provide you with thoughts and information on the best way to tackle this situation.


Download SANDS FAMILY AND FRIENDS LEAFLET

Our support for employers

Watching a loved family member or friend suffer through the loss of their child can be incredibly difficult, especially if it is not a situation you have any experience of yourself. Very often bereaved parents tell how they grow apart from friends after the loss of their child. A lot of the time this is down to friends simply not knowing what to say and being afraid of causing additional hurt, choosing instead to avoid the subject and the person altogether.

Friends or family members suffering through the loss of their child need your support and they need to know you are there.

Our Angels can provide you with thoughts and information on the best way to tackle this situation.


Download SANDS EMPLOYERS LEAFLET

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